To the woman who loved well and loved hard...
That is what I am dealing with right now. Sad. Trying not to be anxious and over analyzing. Trying to focus on other things and not be consumed with the emotions in my head. So on that note, there is something else on my heart that I will blog about instead.
Friday night was extremely special.
January 31st will mark the ten year anniversary of the death of Nancy Webb Costello. This past Friday night, I was able to be a part of one of the most memorable nights I have had in a really long time. Mike, Regan's dad, took Regan, Lauren and I out for a dinner in honor of their mom. It was a sweet time of hearing and sharing stories, both funny and sad about the women who forever shaped their lives.
You know, I didn't have the opportunity to meet her in person. Regan and I started dating 4 years after she passed. Over my last 6 years of knowing Regan, I find myself thinking quite regularly " I bet that is something his mom would do." It is amazing how children pick up behaviors and sayings, habits and personalities of their parents. Her passing has been something that I have experienced by walking through the grieving process with Regan over the last few years.
However, recently my perspective has changed a little bit.
When I started to think about having a family, everything changed. It is no longer just about this amazing woman that was Regan's mom. It is about a person that I would have loved for our future children to meet. It is about the woman who instilled the qualities into Regan that have made him who he is today. It is about the woman that loved, encouraged, and adored my husband. It is about the woman who made Regan love to sing out loud. The mom who everyone loved, just like everyone loves Regan. It is about the mom who fell asleep with her bible on her chest and convinced Regan he could do anything and do it well.
This is the mom that made Regan who he is. He will be the dad he will be much in part because of the way his mom was with him.
Friday night was extremely special because though my future children will never know her personally, they will know the stories. They will know the impact that she made on the man who will be their dad.
Because of Friday night...
My babies will know Nancy Costello and I am forever grateful.
Patiently Praying-
Much Love-
Al
She is still a part of his life. She helped mold him into the amazing man (and husband and brother in law) that he is. I can not imagine when we lose one of our parents. It is life altering event. Regan has more grief than one should have to experience. I know she is looking down on you two and laughing as she sees Regan do his thing. She is also extremely proud of her son and her daughter in law.
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