The last couple weeks have been incredibly hectic at work which has in turn, left me very little time to do other things that need to get done...like planning Regan's birthday! I have felt really guilty about not having some grand plan, and really not having the mental capacity to be creative.
Regan and I have been going back and forth all week on what to do, do we cook out?, do just the 2 of us go out?, little group, big group? Every conversation ended the same way, with no idea what to do and no closer to making a decision.
The more I was thinking about it today, the more I realized what the issue was...
Time are changing.
A few months ago, we had a great dinner with a small group of friends. There was dinner and wine, we were laughing, crying, and just enjoying our time.
I think in both Regan's and my heads, that was an evening that we wanted to re-create for his birthday. A small group of close friends, relaxing and just enjoying being together. However, in as little as a few months, everything has drastically changed.
Paying babysitters, babies too young to keep out, and other obligations in life have changed what our lives look like these days even though we don't have a baby yet.
Gone are the days when we can casually throw together a dinner and everyone not worry about getting home to pay the sitter, if they can even come at all.
We don't have a baby yet, but the changes that have occurred in our friends lives, which in turn effects are lives, make us feel like we do have a baby!
It is a hard balance. Part of me wants to automatically seek out other people in our situation, kidless. However, I can't imagine not spending these special occasions, like birthdays, with the people that are closest to us.
So, what do we do?
Have an afternoon party? Who said daytime parties are only for kids?!?
Patiently Praying-
Much Love-
Al
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